As the world is coming at you with it’s expectations for you to be happy at any cost, you might also think that being happy means having a great social life - (friends, family, colleagues) and social status (job, car, house) - is what you are suppose to aim for.
Even if “being happy” suggests that happiness is not “doing happy” but “being happy”, most of us think happiness is about getting stuff and having people around us.
So many of us work hard to get the physical stuff in order to be happy only to realize we are not quite happy yet. So we will want something else now.The key to happiness is not about “doing” but “being”. It’s a mindset. Click To Tweet
It’s a perspective you take on things whether they go on your way or not.
Being happy means you don’t give up when you lose your job only look at it as a learning opportunity.
Being happy means you don’t get depressed when someone leaves you, only realize how much you’ve learned about what you need or don’t in a relationship.
Being happy means look for the positive instead of the negative. Being happy means you take a perspective that gives you the most peace of mind.
Being happy means you look for what you can love about your body instead of what you can hate.
Being happy means you look at the world via a lens of good instead of bad.
Negative thoughts (being afraid, being scared,) or being sad are of course part of the human experience but don’t dwell on them.
Happiness is a skill, the practice of looking for positive things in your life, looking for what’s working well and not try to fix things that you can’t change.
Happiness for me is when:
I’m “body positive” and it’s not because I love my thighs or nose. It’s because I choose to look at my body via a lens of what’s good in there instead of what I hate. I focus on what I like instead of what I hate.
You can be a 100 pounds or 200 and still hate or love your body. It’s about the perspective you take on. The belief you have about bodies that are 100 or 200 pounds.
Being happy is not about doing more but being in the mindset where your perspective gives you the least suffering and the most happiness. Being happy is looking the glass half full instead of half empty.
Ultimately being happy is two-fold.
It is about being able to be in the present moment without thinking about the past or worrying about the future. Just be in the present moment and feel the environment around you.
But also happiness is a skill, the practice of looking for positive things in your life, looking for what’s working well and not try to fix things that you can’t change. It’s about choosing perspective on things that give you the least suffering.
Hope this helps,