What creates unhealthy relationship with food is the long term dieting for the sole purpose of weight loss.
Long term dieting builds shame, guilt, and judgments around food.
I had my own share of struggle with diets, hence struggling with food.
I am going to debunk 6 myths about dieting, weight loss and beauty standards.
Diet Is What You Need To Reach Happiness:
Eating when you are hungry, stopping when you are full is natural but when you are focused on dogmatically follow a diet (when, what and how much to eat by the T) you can’t focus on your life.
Your brain is occupied with all its mental bandwidth and willpower to keep up on with your demands to control food and your body.
How could you accomplish anything when your brain is already taken? Obsessing and shaming yourself over food or weight takes a lot of mental concentration.Constant dieting promotes eating disorders. Click To Tweet If you try to control food sooner or later food will control you. Click To Tweet
It’s time to make a change when you find yourself in this trap.
Deprivation Is A Great Motivator For Weight Loss:
Dieting means restricting food, which will ultimately lead to binging or overeating. You know that. The stress that you create by not allowing yourself what you want can be worse than sugar, gluten or grain deprivation combined.
If you can’t enjoy a piece of cake or ice cream, you are denying yourself from the pleasure of life.
What you can’t have you will want it more. You better get that cake when you feel like it before you make yourself sick of it by overeating.
“Thinness” Isn’t A Beauty Standard:
We learn our biases through our environment we live in.
Role models have always been portrait in beauty standards as physical examples of how we should look like.
Your assumption that just because you don’t have the body type that the mainstream supports, you shouldn’t be happy with your body.
It’s quite the opposite.
It’s only in the past 100 years we’ve included thinness as a character of beauty. Beauty is constructed so construct yours.
Find role models who have a similar body type you have, who can teach you how your life could be even if you don’t see it just yet.
Edit your world by paying attention to your social world such as the Internet.
Start editing your Facebook, Instagram or Pinterest platforms and if they don’t support body positive perception then change who you follow. Unfollow some and start following role models based on your body type and style for a body positive beauty.
Looking At Your Life Holistically Make No Sense:
There is so much focus on the physical body in the media it is easy to forget other areas of your life like what fills you up emotionally regarding career, home or relationships.
You can only achieve a fraction of what you are capable of if you are only focusing on your physical body.
Do you want to remember at the end of your life how much time you spent on dieting and hating your body or you want to count your joyful moment you have created by doing things that made you happy?
You Can Find Your Self-worth In Your Physical Appearance:
You are imperfectly perfect and good enough.
You don’t need to compensate “feeling not good enough” with “striving for being thin enough”.
Self-esteem and self-worth are 2 very different things. Self-esteem is based on how other people see you based on your achievement.Self-worth is how you see and treat yourself regardless what other people think of you. Click To Tweet
When you have a sense of self-worth you are less impacted by cultural expectations.
Self-acceptance Isn’t Liberating:
Although it is great to pay attention to the environment who you surround yourself with like body positive people you don’t need to validate your worth by being around communities only who accept your weight or body type.The ideal body is the one you have. Click To Tweet
It’s only up to you if you are willing to embrace your own body type whether you are skinny, svelte, lean, fat or in between.
Although it’s sound great that “it’s all about that base” but what’s more important is to like what you’ve got.
When you realize food is just food and how you feel about your body is totally up to you and it’s not something that will give you the ultimate road to happiness or success, you can create a feel-good relationship with food and with your body.
Feeling good is the new looking good by shifting your obsession from skinny to loving what you’ve got and treating it with care.
Hope this article helps to wanting to shift your perception on a couple of things you have a hard time to deal with in your mind.
Your life can be much happier right now by not changing your reality but changing your perception of your reality.