Communication

What To Do When You Don’t Want To Talk About Dieting And Weight Loss

I am at that stage of my life when talking about diets or losing weight doesn’t entertain me anymore and I don’t want to talk about them.

But we live in a world where talking about these subjects is considered normal almost to an extent, when we use it to help us to bond with people and to avoid awkward silence.

Interestingly enough comments like “you lost weight” culturally also means “what’s different with you”.

People sometimes don’t even know if you really lost weight, but in case you are glowing or look confident they literally refer it back to your weight because they don’t know any better.

Our brain associates confidence, happiness, assertiveness with weight loss because in our society we have a strong bias of thin is confident, happy and fat not confident.

Overall weight loss related comments don’t necessarily mean “let’s talk about weight loss”.

We are just conditioned by society to think that it is nice to comment on our weight because that’s what we want to hear.

But if you are like me, who is bored and absolutely not interested in these topics, let me ask you this:

To what extend do you engage in those conversations? When diet and weight management comes […]

Do You Know How To Maintain Relationships Where you Feel Content?

When we get home and our partner, friend, family member doesn’t do what he/she is supposed to we can easily lose it and get upset.

Staying in a supportive relationship can be challenging if we don’t know how to communicate what we want.

Are you aggressive, passive aggressive or assertive in your relationships?
Aggressive behavior:
How does an aggressive request sound?

“I just got home and you didn’t clean the kitchen you promised. This is the least you could have done. How about doing something else like picking up the dry cleaning? You never do anything right even if you promise it. You are useless.”

Aggressive behavior

Infringements the rights of others
Ignores the need and opinion of others
Involves inappropriate expression of feelings and emotions

Feeling weak or threatened can trigger aggressiveness. Being passive in relationships for a while can also turn us into an aggressive monster.
Passive Aggressive behavior:
How does a passive aggressive request sound?

“I just got home and you didn’t clean the kitchen you promised. I know you had a pedicure and had met your friend for an hour before that, while I was at work. Would you mind cleaning up the apartment? But just if you are not too busy”

In passive aggressive behavior we don’t really stand up […]